In a stride of sincerity i just turned 19 im in college i have no friends at all from my 1st year, nothing to do all day, and no one else to ask: what should i do? I just want to meet people, ive been going insane at home for a long time
It's good to remember that everyone else are also feeling lonely and bored and are nervous about breaking the ice. Most people are just waiting for someone to talk to them, or to have something to do. If you ask them, most will jump at the chance to help someone with anything, and they will be grateful for any kind of help with whatever they are doing. Boring practical advice, get a side job, a hobby (that involves other people), join a gym/sports team, etc. There's also going out drinking but that didn't turn out well for me. If you solve "nothing to do all day" the rest follows, not the other way around
Collage/uni can be difficult with this stuff because the side activities and clubs and stuff they make to encourage socialising can feel forced and shallow. If there's nothing on offer you are particularly into, I don't know, movie clubs or literature clubs or what have you, I'd try to find that stuff outside of the collage system and start dipping your toes into the real world. But that comes from a guy who is also embittered about the institution
In a stride of sincerity i just turned 19 im in college i have no friends at all from my 1st year, nothing to do all day, and no one else to ask: what should i do? I just want to meet people, ive been going insane at home for a long time
It's good to remember that everyone else are also feeling lonely and bored and are nervous about breaking the ice. Most people are just waiting for someone to talk to them, or to have something to do. If you ask them, most will jump at the chance to help someone with anything, and they will be grateful for any kind of help with whatever they are doing. Boring practical advice, get a side job, a hobby (that involves other people), join a gym/sports team, etc. There's also going out drinking but that didn't turn out well for me. If you solve "nothing to do all day" the rest follows, not the other way around
Collage/uni can be difficult with this stuff because the side activities and clubs and stuff they make to encourage socialising can feel forced and shallow. If there's nothing on offer you are particularly into, I don't know, movie clubs or literature clubs or what have you, I'd try to find that stuff outside of the collage system and start dipping your toes into the real world. But that comes from a guy who is also embittered about the institution
Is it possible to explain the Hedgehog-Fox and Weasel-Cactus (or Weasel-Scorpion in rhis case) social dynamism, and how they tie in to social orginazation theory ala Gervais Principle? https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2014/02/20/the-cactus-and-the-weasel/
I don't know what that is and it seems like a whole thing to get into
this was a pretty intimidating read